Divorce 101 Newsletter: 30 Days to Master Your Divorce, Part One
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When I was first divorced, Saturday nights were the worst. So I send this to you on Saturday to let you know that you are not alone.
**Your eyes do not deceive you, my newsletter is in a new format this week. Reply back and let me know what you think”
When I was first separated, I lost a couple of months in a daze, and trying to make things as collaborative as possible with my ex. On the other hand, she had a lawyer and a plan the day after we separated. By the time the 3 month mark rolled around, I was on the back foot and never really achieved any forward momentum for another year.
So I share this month long plan with you in two parts, starting with the first 14 days of what I would have done differently.
Week One
➡️Take time to let all your emotions surface. Grief, anger, embarrassment, and sadness.
➡️Talk to a friend and a therapist. Divorce is a major life event and you should talk to a professional and keep talking to them until end of divorce +365 days.
➡️See your doctor for anxiety meds. This is no time to tough it out.
The goal of week one is to acknowledge the toll that divorce is going to take on you and to prevent spiraling into depression.
Week Two
➡️Get a lawyer and tell your ex who they are and that all communications should go through them. Yes it seems callous and yes, the bills will start to mount, but this signals to yourself and the other side that you are serious.
➡️Change all your passwords and if you have their passwords, resist the urge to look at your ex's email. Nothing good comes from this and often courts will impose damages for unauthorized access.
➡️Block your ex on social and stop following them. If crazy has a home, it's following your ex on social.
➡️Lock all your accounts to prevent money from disappearing. And it goes to say, don’t be the one draining your joint accounts.
The goal of week two is to prevent unwanted damage to your finances, your reputation, and your legal standing.
Next week, in Part Two, we look at Personal Health and Decision Making Priorities.
Take care until then!
